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“The Sunday Scaries” is truly the perfect description of the feeling that happens on Sunday, starting anytime between roughly 2 and 5PM, that involves anxiety, dread, grief and mourning over the weekend that came and went as fast as the lunch hour seems to come and go on Tuesdays. I’ve been battling the Sunday Scaries since I was little, and I know I’m not alone. When I was in school, Sunday nights I would be filled with sadness about the weekend being over and anxiety about the school week to come and everything it involved: homework, waking up early, possible social issues with friends or non-friends at school, having to go to bed early so you can wake up early, studying, tests, pop quizzes (SURPRISE!), etc. No wonder I was anxious. 

And that feeling set up shop and created a home inside my body, coming with me to college, and then into the work world. I wanted to say that the feeling was a squatter, there against my permission. But the reality is, I’m used to that feeling, and it’s in large part still there because it’s a familiar feeling. I know this because sometimes there will be a Monday where I don’t have as busy of a schedule, so Sunday night shouldn’t involve any “scaries.” But it still does, maybe not to the same degree, but they are undoubtedly still there. And it’s because I know them, they’ve been with me since I was five, and that’s longer than a lot of other things in my life. They say, “hey it’s 5PM and you’re not feeling anxious-- WHY NOT? IT’S SUNDAY! DON’T YOU FEEL IT? THERE IS SO MUCH TO WORRY ABOUT!” 

My point is, it seems like sometimes we unconsciously cling to familiar feelings, even if they are unpleasant, because the familiarity provides an odd sense of comfort. 

A few tips to battle the Sunday Scaries: 

1) To list or not to list

Going through all the things that might be stressing you out that are coming up this week can either be very helpful, or not at all. We can go the route of writing a list of everything that needs to get accomplished this week, and then feel a bit lighter, as though writing it down on paper took it out of our body in some way. Also, just seeing it written out can make things seem less intense. Oftentimes, this can be soothing. However, when we are in a very anxious and also depressed state, sometimes this can add to our stress. The list might not be helpful if you are so overwhelmed that you are feeling almost panicky. The first priority is to get grounded and do some serious breathing. Obnoxious breathing. Big inhales, and loud exhales. Here’s a simple breathing technique that is used in the military (and they are under some real stress):  

1) Close your eyes, get grounded, feel weight of your body on the chair/floor/bed. 
2) Breathe in through your nose for four counts (count in your head 1, 2, 3, 4…)
3) Hold the breath for four counts 
4) Exhale through your mouth for four counts
5) Hold the empty breath for four counts
6) Repeat

Counting in your head is important, at least for me, while I’m doing this exercise, because it’s harder for my thoughts to run wild. I’m focusing on only the numbers and the breath (1, 2, 3, 4)

2) Acknowledge that you’re having the Sunday Scaries

This does not make them go away, but ignoring them seems to fuel them even more. If I’m able to say to my mom/dad/friend/boyfriend “I’m having Sunday night anxiety” and even just talk about it for a minute, I’ve noticed the anxiety dial down several notches. Sitting silently and stewing by ourselves in the anxiety only provides a more comfortable home for the anxiety to live in.

3) After acknowledging, do some self-care

So now you’ve acknowledged “I feel ugh”…what next? Since there isn’t a magic wand to make you feel better, knowing some “treats” that feel good for you might be helpful. Some people worry about over-indulging. Think: I feel sad about the weekend being over so I’ll order myself a pizza. And eat the whole thing. I deserve it. Cut to: I can’t believe I ate that entire pizza, now not only is it Sunday night and I’m sad but I’m also fat and alone.  This is an example of not helpful. Something that is helpful would be, say, going out for your favorite yogurt that you don’t usually get, calling or seeing a friend, taking a bubble bath, doing a face mask, ordering or cooking your favorite food for dinner (and not over-doing it). The way you can tell the difference between when you’re indulging in the name of self-care in a productive way, and when you’re over-indulging and numbing, is how you feel afterward. After eating the entire pizza, I feel ashamed, bad about myself, sad, etc. After taking a bubble bath, eating a nice dinner, watching my favorite show or a funny movie, odds are I may feel more rejuvenated and slightly better. 

4) Do little things to make Monday easier

Sometimes a little preparation can make waking up on Monday morning just a little easier. I always lay out my clothes the night before work, checking the weather in preparation, and have made it into a ritual. It’s somewhat calming, and there’s even sometimes fun involved in picking out an outfit (especially if your weekend involved any new sort of clothing/accessory/make-up purchase). Also, it makes getting ready in the morning so much easier. Trying to decide on an outfit at 7AM is out of the question for me—I can barely figure out how to put my hair in a ponytail, let alone decide what colors match and what outfit I’d worn most recently so as not to repeat. 
Preparing breakfast ahead of time is another way to help yourself. I love making smoothies, but the process of getting the fruit out, measuring, blending, and cleaning is not going to happen for me when I’m rushing to get out the door. I’ve recently learned that you can make your smoothies the day before, freeze them (putting smoothies in a mason jar can be a good way to freeze them). Then, the night before work you take the smoothie out of the freezer and put it into the fridge. In the morning, you will have a defrosted, slushy, delicious smoothie ready to go straight out of the fridge. Doesn’t get more convenient than that. Also, preparing these smoothies on a Sunday morning or afternoon can be a super relaxing/calming ritual to do, knowing you’re getting yourself organized and prepared.

5) Try your best to get in bed early

I would also precede this with a hot bath or warm shower to help you feel more relaxed. Once in bed, after the TV is off and the phone is put away (ideally a couple hours before bedtime, but I realize this can be unrealistic), do some deep breathing. Eyes closed, feel the bed, get curious about what the sheets, comforter, and pillows feel like. When you notice your mind start to wander to something you have to do this week, should’ve done, could do, whatever…notice that you’re doing it, and go back to thinking about what the bed feels like. The more times this happen, the more tiring it will become, and the more likely you will be to fall asleep.


 


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06/07/2017 9:35am

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07/11/2017 6:51pm

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08/24/2017 7:21pm

Honestly, I don't believe in ghosts. I see it as a thing that's just a product of our imaginations and do not exist in real life. Reading this article makes me cringe. But on the other hand, I realized that there are also possibilities that these elements exist in the real world. The reason why I don't believe in their existence is the fact that I haven't seen or experienced having ghosts around. I'll tell you once I see one!

07/10/2017 11:40am

Oh thanks for this post

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08/24/2017 12:32am

Though I acknowledge the idea that there are people who really experience this thing, giving more attention to this matter shouldn't be prioritized. It's not because I don't believe in ghosts, but because there are great things that will help you to be a better version of yourself. Ghosts are just on our minds, and they can't kill us so stop being overly emotional over this matter. Focus on other things instead!

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I remember having so much work load at school that I was literally scared of sleeping during a Sunday night. The amount of pressure I had to deal with during Monday was too much. This changed when I started getting organized with my things. I got myself a planner and listed down all the things that I need to accomplish. As much as possible I try to schedule all my tasks on a Friday night and during Saturday so that I am left with no tasks on Sunday so I can relax.

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